Tuesdays w/ TJae: Leaders are Trusted to Decide


The Quiet Rebel

07.14.26

Tuesdays w/TJae:
Leaders are Trusted to Decide

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Hey Reader - Did you know that organizations spend billions of dollars each year developing leaders?

In 2025, U.S. organizations spent an estimated $102.8 billion on workplace training. Leadership training was also the most common career-development practice identified in LinkedIn Learning’s 2025 report.

We are clearly investing in leadership.

The question that's bugging me is: When are leaders taught how to decide?

We teach leaders to communicate, manage conflict, develop people, establish goals, execute strategy, and lead change. Every one of those responsibilities requires decisions.

Some decisions determine how resources will be allocated. Others shape workplace culture, influence who feels welcome, and affect whether people feel safe enough to speak.

Yet decision-making is often treated as an instinct leaders should already possess.

We trust leaders to decide. We give them the authority to decide. We hold them accountable for the consequences.

But we rarely give them a shared practice for making those decisions.

The Cost of Deciding Again

In a global survey of more than 1,200 business leaders, McKinsey found that only 20% of respondents believed their organizations excelled at making decisions.

McKinsey also estimated that ineffective decision-making consumed approximately 530,000 days of managers’ time each year at a typical Fortune 500 company. In wages alone, that represented about $250 million annually.

That is human capital being spent.

It is paid time spent reconsidering what people thought had already been settled. It is the cost of redoing work, revising plans, repairing communication, resolving confusion, and recovering momentum.

There are relational costs too. Frustration. Disengagement. Diminished trust. People quietly carrying consequences they had little opportunity to help shape.

These expenses may appear under payroll, operations, project management, or retention. They rarely appear on a budget as decision debt.

But organizations are paying them all the same.

Decision debt is the accumulated human, operational, and relational cost created when decisions leave important considerations unresolved.

I don't mean to imply that every decision must be made once and preserved forever. Conditions change. New information emerges. Reconsidering a decision can be wise and responsible.

Decision debt grows when something that could have been surfaced, considered, communicated, or owned earlier creates avoidable work or harm later.

What truth did we avoid?

What pressure did we mistake for urgency?

Whose perspective did we overlook?

Who had responsibility without authority?

A more intentional decision-making practice cannot remove uncertainty. It can help us recognize more of what deserves consideration before the cost begins accumulating.

Organizations are already paying for how decisions are made.

What might change if we invested in helping leaders make them more intentionally?


Help Me Understand How We Decide

I am conducting research into shared decision-making practices inside organizations, teams, and communities.

I want to learn whether people have been taught a specific way to make decisions together, what those practices look like, and what happens when no shared practice exists.

I'm focusing this first round on organizations with a presence in Houston and the surrounding area, but am hoping to expand it nationally.

Please Help Me Invite Others

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How do people learn to make decisions together?
The Quiet Rebel, LLC is researching the shared decision-making practices people experience in organizations, teams, and communities.

Special Invitation: Five Paid-in-Gratitude Actors Needed

I need help recording five short, fictional leadership scenarios for an upcoming Learning Community this Fall.

Each person will receive a first-person script and record a casual video on Zoom lasting approximately 60 to 90 seconds. Acting experience isn't required - just a willingness to stay true to the character.

This is a paid-in-gratitude opportunity, which means I'm hoping to borrow from relational stock.

Interested? Reply with “I’ll play a leader” and I will send the roles and additional details.

I know this was longer than normal. Thanks for hanging in there with me.

LOVE first. Always.

—TJae

In case you're new to Tuesdays w/ TJae, you should know that you won't receive emails from me every Tuesday, or on any particular Tuesday - but always (well, normally) on a Tuesday. As a child, whenever we'd visit my Grandpa James, he'd end the visit by saying "See you Tuesday," no matter when we were scheduled to see him again. So this newsletter is part nod to James Rivers, and part nod to my love of alliteration.

See you Tuesday!
TJae

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